Being Negative Is Natural
Hate is easier to sustain that love.
Suspicion is easier to understand than trust.
A negative reaction is far more natural than a positive one.
And while the research varies, there is a large body of scientific evidence which asserts: it takes fewer muscles to frown than to smile. At minimum, research proves, not only do we have a “negativity bias,” our brains are hard-wired towards the negative.
If this all seems too extreme, think about how easy it is for you to forgive? How quickly do YOU let go of a grudge?
What image of a person comes to mind when you think of a racist….sexist….xenophobe…. homophobe…..a misogynist…..a classist….agist…..ableist?
Are you open to the idea that you choose to be a victim of someone else’s attitudes and behaviours such that you remain in a state of suspicion, fear and even hate of the group you see as the perpetrator? Or, will you defend yourself and assert you are a realist and even a champion for the marginalized, abused, and misunderstood?
Humans are, naturally, animals
We operate on a very basic level of existence which includes the ever-present danger of predators. Thus, we “should” distrust others. It is “logical” to hold on to grudges insofar as we must protect ourselves from future hurt. In fact, forgiveness seems unnecessary and almost irresponsible if we want to preserve our life and the people around us.
And yet…
…there is a still small voice inside each of us asking us to rise above our base, carnal, animalistic nature and become who we were designed to be in the realm of the Divine.
What might your life look like if you tapped into this Higher Power on a daily basis and rather than react as you naturally desire (with hate, lust, fear, greed, envy, pride, slander, vengeance, manipulation), you tap into the Divine Within which allows for love, trust, positivity, and forgiveness and release of self-worry, self-preservation, self-concern…Self?!
To arrive at a place of undeniable, inexplicable, mind-blowing peace, love, freedom – HAPPINESS – is a work of The Divine after one as accepted she must seek and learn and take actions to grow, improve, change, get better and then let it all go! It is the combination of the work one has done on her Intellectual Quotient plus her Emotional Quotient and God Quotient that will dictate the level of one’s Happiness Quotient. IQ+EQ+GQ=HQ.
I’m excited to walk this journey with you as we unveil the practical and research-based information on how to achieve that which we all desire for ourselves and others – to be “happy”. We discover that happiness is attainable and, better yet, sustainable, as long as one is willing to do the work. In my book “The Happiness Formula”, I dive into each element in detail. Order your copy of “The Happiness Formula”, click here and subscribe to my YouTube Channel (click here) for continued insights and updates into HAPPINESS. Thank you for your support!
Kasandra Vitacca Mitchell
Kasandra Vitacca Mitchell is an Author, Speaker, Coach of Wealth & Happiness with a mission to bring research, wisdom, and authenticity to others via “The Happiness Formula.”